COLOSSIANS 3
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged. 22 Bondservants, obey in everything those who are your earthly masters, not by way of eye-service, as people-pleasers, but with sincerity of heart, fearing the Lord. 23 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men, 24 knowing that from the Lord you will receive the inheritance as your reward. You are serving the Lord Christ. 25 For the wrongdoer will be paid back for the wrong he has done, and there is no partiality. – Colossians 3:18-25
COLOSSIANS 3 SUBMISSION IN THE HOUSEHOLD
A poem by ILMA inspired by these verses
A household that serves the Lord lives for obedience
They do not defy or question God’s requirements
The wives submit to their husbands as fitting in the Lord
The husbands honor and love their wives as their own
The servants obey their masters in everything faithfully
For they are serving the Lord Jesus when they do it devotedly.
If you observe a household that doesn’t believe in God and one that serves the Lord, you will notice the big difference. The Christian household follows God’s order and hierarchy in the home. There is a delegation of duties and respect in the roles that each family member plays. But the world system has made family life more complicated when mothers started working and earning to help the family finances compensate for the small income. The role of mother, which is to care for the children and the home, became compromised because they have taken over the role of the husbands who are supposed to be the breadwinner. There is also a culture of trying to live up to the Joneses, where work becomes a source of getting all the worldly pleasures that will qualify the family to be accepted. Because of the economy, sometimes it is inevitable that roles switch happens even in the Christian homes. You will notice a big difference in the way the children are growing up when mothers are stay-at-home and looking after the home and her children compared to those households where mothers are working. Neglect of children is bound to happen if the mother is playing two different roles because of the physical demands of working two roles in the home. I grew up with my father working abroad and if you add up all the years that I saw him, it will not even be a total of two years. My mother also worked while my dad was abroad and so we were left to be cared for by my two aunts and maids. As a child, I couldn’t understand why my parents were physically and also emotionally absent because of the desire to earn money. I was neglected even though there were my aunts and maids around.
Paul explains the importance of submission and roles in the household of believers in this account. Each member of the household is accountable to God so they submit to the roles given to them.
REFLECTION
· What happens when members of the household do not submit to God’s order and laws?









