July 23
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REMINDERS ON MARRYING OFF & RE-MARRIAGE
36 But if anyone thinks that he is acting dishonorably toward his virgin, if she is past her youth and it ought to be so, let him do what he wishes, he is not sinning; let them marry. 37 But the one who stands firm in his heart, if he is not under constraint, but has authority over his own will, and has decided this in his own heart, to keep his own virgin, he will do well. 38 So then, both the one who gives his own virgin in marriage does well, and the one who does not give her in marriage will do better.
39 A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. 40 But in my opinion, she is happier if she remains as she is; and I think that I also have the Spirit of God. – 1 Corinthians 7:36-40
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In this letter to the Corinthians, Paul answers the question of the Corinthian church whether the fathers should arrange a marriage for their daughter. According to a commentary “anyone” mentioned in verse 36 here refers to the father of a young woman or man of marrying age (his virgin). Acting dishonorably toward his virgin has nothing to do with any kind of improper moral behavior, but with denying his daughter or son the right to marry, based on the way Paul values singleness. In that culture, a young person’s parents had the primary responsibility for arranging their marriage. So, based on what Paul has already taught, should a Christian father recommend celibacy to his child? Paul says it is not wrong for a father to allow his young daughter to marry, even allowing for the desirability of singleness at the present time. In verse 37, Paul recommends being single not only to the unmarried but also to the fathers when they marry off their daughters.
In verse 38, Paul explains that it is neither good nor bad to marry off their daughters or not, but that because of the current distress going on in Corinth, they will be better off to stay unmarried. In verses 39-40, Paul addresses the question about remarriage to the widows. He reminds the women that they are married to their husbands for life but are free to re-marry after they die, but he recommends to stay unmarried after because then, they will be undistracted to serve their Lord God wholeheartedly and undividedly.
It may baffle many unbelievers why Paul recommends singlehood for believers, but I understand that he is making them see that there is less worldly concerns for the single because the married people are bound to please their spouses and family.
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REFLECTION
• How is Paul right in recommending singlehood to serve God more faithfully?